Fear based Parenting and the one thing you should never say

There is a model of parenting that elicits a certain amount of fear in a child that if they don’t do what you want them to, you will do something they really don’t want. It’s a parenting style that is easily used because it use persuasion to get a child to act accordingly. However, in the grand scheme of child rearing, I am leaving behind fear based parenting because I think it sends the wrong message to my children. It sends the message that I am unapproachable and won’t love them if they cross the line.

Raising a toddler without fear-based parenting and what phrase to never use with your kids.

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How to Encourage Breastfeeding Moms – The Best Cancer Medicine

I never met my grandmother. Before she ever reached her 50th birthday, she had breast cancer that had spread into her bones. So in 1969, my grandmother passed away leaving behind five kids that would have countless kids and grandkids of their own. And from a very early age, I mourned the fact that I never got to meet her and even worried about my own chances of getting breast cancer. In the last three years I have worked on finding ways to encourage breatfeeding moms and have researched the impact of breastfeeding on breast cancer.

Breastfeeding is not easy, but it's worth it. Here are just some of the reasons it's worth it and how to encourage other women to set lofty breastfeeding goals.

While I know that breast cancer can strike anyone in any family even if they “do everything right,” it has been a passion of mine in the last 10 years to reduce my own chances and help others reduce theirs. A natural extension of this was advocating breastfeeding support communities for women to find help and support without judgment or embarrassment.  As women, we must encourage each other to be our best and do our best, lifting each other up and helping through the very essences of what it means to be a woman — childbirth and breastfeeding. We must encourage each other’s efforts to do what’s best for our babies and our bodies in the long term because just like childbirth is natural but not easy, breastfeeding is the same.

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Tools for Communicating with Toddlers

In the age where children are inconsolable, dealing with big emotions, and many times lack the words to effectively communicate, it is important for parents to be there to help fill in the gaps rather than create more distance. When a toddler is throwing a tantrum or is on the verge of getting upset, it’s easy to create distance between parent and child by telling them we can’t understand them or to demand they stop whining. But looking back on my own childhood, I remember very vividly that in those moments, I felt even smaller, even less understood, and even more frustrated. So to encourage toddlers and lift them up, it’s just a few simple tools for communicating with toddlers that help bridge the gap of misunderstanding.

5 toddler communication strategies to help parent and child through whining, crying, and misunderstandings. Simple tips for speaking more directly to our children.

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